[My wife Sharon wrote about this Thai experience on her
CaringBridge blog and I commend her writing to you. http://www.caringbridge.org/visit/sharonschliep/journal]
The first few mornings in Thailand we were awakened by what
sounded like cannon fire. This is done to acknowledge that a person has died
during the night. Sometimes there were
six or seven “shots” during a morning.
I am sure that in a city the size of Huntington Beach the
death rate is at least the same as this community of Doi Saket, but we do
nothing to publicly announce someone’s passing.
Even the newspaper which used to carry the obituary of almost everyone
who died now only highlight a few that may be of interest to the reader.
We send out birth announcements, graduation announcements and wedding
announcements. We do not, typically,
send out death announcements. In fact it
seems we want to pretend that no one dies.
Which leaves those closest to the deceased feeling alone and lonely.
It was not so long ago that the majority of deaths occurred at
home. At the end of World War II, only
40% of deaths occurred in hospitals. The recent numbers indicate that 60% of
Americans die in acute care hospitals and 20% in nursing homes and only 20% at
home. The number of those dying in
America outside the home (and their family) has basically doubled.
Yet recent surveys indicate that 80% of Americans would prefer to die at
home.
In his book, “The
Christian Art of Dying,” Allen Verhey writes, “Death was not a solitary
event. Like life, it happened in
community. And death happened not only in community but also to the community. It was a communal loss, and both grief and
comfort were communal tasks. Together
they held tight to their humanity in the face of the sad truths of suffering
and death.”
We can’t always
influence the when or how of someone’s dying but we can do something about
celebrating their life and grieving their death. We can make sure that their passing is
noted. We can make sure that their death
will not be like Scrooge’s in which the only people who note his passing are
those who have something to gain from his proceeds. Whether it is a memorial service, a funeral,
a celebration or a cannon boom, we can note their life by acknowledging their
death.
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